Everyday Pet Peeves Any 20 Something Woman Has...

Everyday Pet Peeves Any 20 - Something Has...

Well mainly these are mainly my pet peeves/things that piss me off, but surely I can't be the only person... surely?!?

1. People walking in front of me and general rudeness on sidewalks.

Erm what the actual fuck is wrong with some (most) people. I let people by and I don't get so much as a thank you. People shoulder barging me when there is tones of room and not even sorry.
And most of the time I can see it coming so I move out the way and they still fucking get me. Then there's the slowest walkers ever when I'm in a rush and they seem to takeover the entire pavement.... AWW or girls in groups linking arms.
How the hell am I meant to get through you.

Don't even get me started on pashy couples!


2. Guy's clearly staring at you for minuets, hours, days, weeks, months and not making a move.

Like seriously... what do you want?
Do you fancy me or what? Or do I have something on my face?
Seriously now you're making me paranoid?
No... You're definitely giving me the eye.

And sometimes in a work or educational establishment this can last months maybe even years. What the hell are you looking at me for? If you want my number come and get it otherwise I'm putting a fucking bag on my head and pretending you don't exist.
I don't need these third world problems as well as the other menial shit I have to deal with.


3. Eyebrow even-ness.

Since eyebrow definition became a big thing it has become a morning struggle for myself and I'm sure a lot of women.

I have very fair eyebrows for some bizarre reason even though I'm naturally dark, so I fill my eyebrows in... if that wasn't a struggle enough my eyebrows seem to disagree with each other what shape they should be.

Right eyebrow is an absolute babe and goes perfect in about 2 seconds. Grows perfectly too.
Left eyebrow however is... a complete wanker. Grows the completely wrong shape and never wants to cooperate on a morning when I'm filling it to make it look the same.

...the most ironic thing is, the left eyebrow is on show and the right is under my fringe -_-

So I am forever saying:

'One eyebrow always be coming out Gucci and is coming out Walmart!'


4. The New Generation of Children and Bad Parents.

I remember last summer I went to a holiday camp and it had a disco, I was however there purely for the bar. As I looked around every child was on a iPad/Tablet/Phone, not interacting or even looking up. Ignoring their parents. I remember when I was younger there was nothing better than running around at a disco and actually interacting with other human beings or playing out on the streets after school... do kids even do that anymore?

What are these parents thinking?

Children as young as two. I know this because my nieces know how to use my iPhone and my mam's iPad better than we do and their 3 & 5 years old and this started a year ago. Both of them love taking selfies with us but I just worry what they will be like in a couple of years.

Also in public, say in a restaurant or walking down the street, I am sick of badly behaved children and parents with no manners. I know a lot of my friends and family with kids are teaching them good manners but MY GOD!!!

On a daily basis I have children running into me on the street not watching where they are going and not even apologising then the parents don't even pull them up about it or apologize to me. The most embarrassing thing is because I am tall... they run straight into my crotch 9 times out of 10. I never want a child coming out of me, never mind running into my 'bits'. My nieces are no angels when we are out but there is no way in hell I would let them run away or into someone and if they did I would make them apologize and apologize myself.

It's just good manners and it's something the new generations are sadly lacking.


5. Having A Difficult/Different Name.

To be honest my name is not that different or unique. It's a little old fashioned but OH MY GOD... every time I go to work in a different venue or sometimes new venues, they can never spell my name. It's not that hard to spell. It's one of the major reasons I insist on being called by my shortened name Gina. I've literally seen so many derivations of people trying to spell my name. Sometimes they can't even spell Gina... Seriously I've seen someone spell it Jeina... What!
And when I was little anywhere I went I could never get anything with my name on and if I could finally find something I'd have a little party in my pants. Oh and never mind the inventive and cruel nicknames I got given off bullies that I can now laugh at. The funniest will always be:

'GEORGINAAAA HAS A SMALL WEINER!' and 'Georgie Porgie Pudding and Pie'

I loved being made out to be a transvestite and a lesbian at the age of 4 upwards. So thanks Mam & Dad for being inventive and awkward bastards... Don't even get me started on how people try to spell my last name and middle name.


6. Coats... Just Coats.

I can never win. It's so hard to find a nice coat... well it is for me, finding one that suits me, in my size, that's in fashion, one for hot and cold weather.

Then for the weather to fuck up all your plans.
Ohh it looks really nice outside today I'll just wear a light jacket or a hoody, then you get outside and it pisses down. You're freezing, wet and to top it off you now look like a drowned rat because you didn't have a hood or a umbrella.

Then there's the times when you think ohhh it's a bit cold and drizzling, I best put my big coat on, for you to start walking and the sun starts beaming down. You end up at your desired destinations sweating you're tits off and you daren't take off the massive coat, despite the fact water is coming out of every orifice.

Then there's the days you just cant figure out and of the above happens... this is why I always look a mess.

And we've all either been stuck in a coat or had that heart attack moment the zipper get's stuck... and you think 'Well that's it, I'm going to have to have to wear this hideous green parka the rest of my life... even walk down the aisle in it!


7. Healthy Vs. Junk Food.

I don't even think I need to go into detail. Every normal girl has this problem everyday.

'I want to be skinny and I need to loose 20 pounds... but that pizza looks amazing! Well just one cheat day can't hurt'

Then a cheat day turns into a cheat month or its every now and again. Then we wonder why we cry when we get on the scales. Seriously hats off to the people in this world who can enjoy going every single day for the rest of their lives living like rabbits and never knowing the joy of ordering a massive takeaway then beating yourself up for the next week HAHAHA!

I am so guilty of being starving, having no food in purposely so I am not tempted... Then I buckle and order a massive takeaway, by the time it comes I managed about two mouthfuls and I'm dying in a field of untouched takeaway boxes.

The saying 'eye's bigger than your belly' most definitely applies me. I then feel guilty and want to start my diet again but because I'm absolutely skint I will stuff it into myself so I don't waste my money, destroy the evidence and work my arse off for the next week to not loose a single pound.

It's a never ending cycle that I find absolutely hilarious. There is no doubt in my mind if I stuck to one diet in my life completely, I'd be skinny by now.... But I'd be bloody miserable and you'd never learn how to pick yourself back up again after failing.

So yeah I'll let you justify those little slip ups, as long as they don't turn into cheat months haha.

Men love to wait...

Why is it that men want to have sex all the time but when it comes to a relationship the longer they are made to wait the more they'll commit?

What is this seriously?

You sleep with them too soon or straight away and they'll act like everything's fine then suddenly they decide you were too easy ever be serious with you.

I understand the principle but Jesus I hate the way that these flawed beings work.

And while it's all nice and traditional waiting to have sex. Some of us just can't. We like you, we'll have sex. Then we're too easy? I'm sorry I'm sure there were two of us in this bed. So why is it you get to dictate if we'll be suitable for a relationship.

I'll admit it's my flaw, I never make a guy wait and I should. I just can't. I'll try in the future because I'm sick of men leaving after, this is on the very rare occasion I want a relationship with someone.

But for you if you want to sneer that guy play the waiting game.

If he is willing to wait in any sense, he is willing to wait for sex.

If he is willing to wait for sex, he can wait as long as you can see fit.

I have a guy after me who's been wanting to have sex with me for almost 6 years, the timing has never been right. But if he can wait 5 years, he can wait another day, then another day and another day.

I send him messages every now and again to keep him interested. I know he'll be there when I need to use him for sex and sex alone. It's been established that there is no other intention than just sex.

And from what I've been promised the waiting will be worth of our while.

It'll make him appreciate it whether or not he just wants sex or not. It the difference between him thinking of you as a one night stand or relationship material.

Making a guy wait will also force him to have an emotional connection with you and will in turn make him respect you. Guys get bored of there is no chase involved. Just think of yourself like a mouse and you keep wiggling yourself in front of the cat then running back into you little mouse hole till you're ready to sneak out again.

I will always have this guy waiting till I am ready to use him, and it can be the worst sex ever and he will think its the best because he has waited that long.

Say you've got him waiting now, the kisses on the doorstop have got a bit heated and he's asking to come in just for a little bit or a coffee...

NO!

Until you're ready or think it's time... Don't.

Because although he may seem honourable he won't be he wants it and he'll say whatever he has to to have sex.

In part two I'll explain techniques to help with this.

Are Women Capeable of Casual Sex...

Of course we are...

I'd like to think I was a Samantha, I can be as casual as most men.
But that doesn't devoid me from feeling something for the people I sleep with.
God I'd love it if I could be as distant as most men after sex.


A quote I read was:

'Men don't think clearly before sex were as Women do,
Women think not so clearly after sex and Men do!'


Have you ever noticed men become very withdrawn after sex?
They have a good think afterwards, they think how you and they have acted. 

And it is completely true, they think more clearly after they have what they wanted and women are in this euphoric way of thinking.
They think everything is going to work out no matter how much they know deep, deep down it wont.

I still believe I will, I try telling myself it'll be different. That'll they'll like me and they will message me back. That I don't really like them.

They won't, I have begun to prepare myself for this feeling.

At the end of the day we are all made up of X and Y chromosomes but all of us have some primal need to be satisfied, needed or loved. We all want sex, I know I do. When You want it there'll only be one thing that will satisfy that craving...


SEX, PORN or ABSTENANCE! 

I have personally have gone months without and getting past the 30 day mark when you're used to having it was a challenge. Most girls can last months, men on the other hand can not. Probably not even a day.

My friend lasted 3 years with no form of relationship or sex of any kind, he was to say the least... a bit frustrated. I am open and we talk about sex quite a lot and he lasted 3 month after hearing my exploits before having to buckle to casual sex with a friend from back home. No he's saying he fine without... I give him a month tops before he's itching and bitching to me about not getting any.

He is one of my very few friends that doesn't succumb to casual sex and waits for meaningful relationships. I had to give him a high five for following my advice and he is back to wanting a long term relationship.

I am lucky most of my male friends are settled and are not players, I am the only one that seems to be one or attracts them. I do not know why it is such an alien fact that women can act/think/behave like men. In my experience men find it intimidating or like an extra game if a girl thinks like a man.

I had one who tried to play mind games. I broke it off with him because I could smell the trouble coming and he threw his toys out of the pram acting like he had first and that id be devastated. The fact I couldn't care less annoyed him. He then spent months trying to wind me up about it and still calls to 'sleep over' even though he is in a relationship. 

Don't worry I don't answer anymore because he's too much head drama even for one night of hot sex.

My male friends have told me they are left confused how forward a girl can be and not knowing where they are standing, which leads me onto my next point...

why do men love when a woman acts like a bitch and why acting like a bitch can be the best thing you can do to keep a man....

Welcome to Sex in Leeds...

I never liked sex and the city growing up, it wasn't till a month ago. I thought it was for girly girls who were desperate to find a relationship.
I watched a couple of episodes and I was that hooked, I bought the entire box-set and both films on sky movies. Ironic I know that a complete tomboy would love something so girly.


But really it isn't. It the modern day woman but with an optimistic outcome. I could relate to all of the characters except from Charlotte. I'm more of a Samantha with a little bit of Carrie. I think every girl would love to be a care-free Samantha.


So I guess your wondering why I started this blog in the first place. I have never wanted to go into journalism, it's after my most recent 'relationship' I thought I'd educate both men and women about how most women think... well mainly men.


Why is it the majority of men are not willing to accept that women can be as blasé as men?
Why can't women just want casual sex like men without them thinking we have a hidden agenda?
Why is it that men think we want certain things from relationships?
What are men really thinking?
Why is he ignoring me?
What have I done wrong?

Basically this blog will be sharing my experiences with men.
My many failings and successes, my regrets and triumphs.

If it gets off the ground fine, if not I'm not bothered. My main aim is so women like me or who have been through similar experiences don't feel like their completely on their own like I have, going out of my mind with worry wondering what it is I have said or done wrong to loose that guy we all thought was the one or the one for the mean time. 

And so men can find out what women think, act like, want...ect.

I am not talking for every girl, I am just speaking from experience. A more realistic version of Sex and The City if you will.


So what gives me a better perspective than most women you have heard from?


Like Carrie from Sex and The City I have had my fair share of bad relationships and one night stands, what most of them lately haven't realised is that I have been trying different techniques to be able to write this blog and get a better perspective. I am willing to get knowledge from bad experiences to share them, because like most girls at one point in my life I have gone to the internet for advice, ad I guess many people have. Also I have mainly male friends, am a tomboy and slightly bi sexual, so I have and can get that knowledge most girls are dying to find out.

Here's my story...

The Truth About One Night Stands...

Although most of us aren't willing to admit they have had a one night stand 90% of Great Britain has had a one night stand. Male or female, it doesn't matter.

We all may not be willing to share but behind the comfort of those cosy computer screens we have all at least once wrote into google:

'How to turn a one night stand into a relationship',
'I had a one night stand how do I get rid of them easily'
or something STD related.

Trust me I have searched pretty much all of them, and all you get is forums with people voicing their opinion with no experience. I have been in all of those situations plenty of times.

If I'm honest I'm a bit of a one night stand addict. I wish I wasn't and one day no doubt I'll find someone that wont mind I'm so trusting or I'll have to go to therapy... shit happens.

So...

You've had a one night stand and can't remember it or if you used a condom?

1. Get booked into your local clinic... not hard and any self respecting girl should know where to get tested.
Even when I'm not in a relationship I will still get tested every 3 months to make sure, or even if I haven't got laid in a year I still will.

2. That clinic can get you sorted within a month tops, unless its something more serious.

3. You can't remember it? You can do two things (or both)... Have a cry and put yourself down or you can pull up your big girl pants and decided if getting that drunk was worth never remembering what you've done.


Situation 2:

You aren't on contraception:

1: Boots... need I say more, (if I do... Pharmacist as long as your under 25, emergency contraception).

2: Get yourself on some contraception even if you're not planning on seeing anyone anytime soon.


So you've slept with him because he's spouted you some bullshit about how much he likes you and you wont be a one night stand... 1 out of probably 100 have actually meant it, most men say it just to get in your pants and make you think they're honest and they wont leave you hanging after..


They will,don't believe them one bit. Even if they are being honest.
If you sleep with the guy pretty soon, it's all lies.
I've had guys say:

'You'll never be a one night stand!'
'I don't believe in one night stands!'
'I want a relationship!'
'I like you!'
'How can you think that?'

or they just plain convince you...

I've even had one lately say they want a relationship when I clearly pointed out I wasn't relationship material or even wanted a relationship said 'want to get serious and be committed to each other' the first time we had sex and then completely delete me out of his life... to be honest he was one of my experiment relationship that I will get on to later. But the rule is:

1: Don't believe a word they say, even if they are being genuine. If you sleep with them too soon their is no going back. (with the exception of being a booty call).

2: You'll kid yourself he's different and it meant something... No. You give it up too quickly he's already made his mind up no matter how nice you or he is. You are too easy.

The only way you can rectify this is to move on and pretend like you're not bothered no matter how
much you are and how difficult everyday is wondering if you'll ever hear from him again. And even if you do and you think he might be different... he's not he's just keeping you around as a just in case. Which on a plus side mean you were good enough in between the sheets that'll he'll use you again but not good for you if you think he cares.


There's the subject not a lot of girls deal with but there still will be the rare few out there that will have this situation:

'I had a one night stand and now I cant get rid of them'

... I am so guilty of this, because I feel horrible getting rid of guys, no matter how much they repulse me or I don't get on with them after it.

My worst was my friend... I wont mention his name as we are still friends but he pestered me for months on end afterwards and will still come running after one text.

That is how you'll have to deal with one of these guys if they are hooked on you but its very very rarely.

I ignored him for months on end deleted him and he still wanted to be a part of my life so  I said we could be friends and he still tries it on and I have to just be firm and say no. In other circumstances that could turn ugly but I am lucky.

The last guy I was sleeping with wanted a relationship straight off before we knew each other and pretty much moved in with me, and it freaked me out being a complete commitment-phobe.
I am not proud of this but I pretended to be everything I wasn't, a sex freak, movie scene crazy ex and blasé slut.

It worked the day after he left me be and I haven't heard anything since. I don't do break ups well at the best of times, someone' always hurt. At least this way he keeps his ego intact and thinks he broke up with me. This is very rarely I will ever do this and I do not suggest this. But this is because he lives above me and I couldn't get him out of my flat and I needed to have my independence with me having another casual relationship going on that could give me more.

1: You either be honest.

or

2: Tell an outrageous lie.

if all fails use the critical technique above. (can at a later date put more detail into what I did).

Any questions you have or anything you think I should add let me know.

and at the end of the day, unless you can definitely be completely detached (practise) you'll be in one of these 3 situations.

Happy Hunting...