Are Women Capeable of Casual Sex...

Of course we are...

I'd like to think I was a Samantha, I can be as casual as most men.
But that doesn't devoid me from feeling something for the people I sleep with.
God I'd love it if I could be as distant as most men after sex.


A quote I read was:

'Men don't think clearly before sex were as Women do,
Women think not so clearly after sex and Men do!'


Have you ever noticed men become very withdrawn after sex?
They have a good think afterwards, they think how you and they have acted. 

And it is completely true, they think more clearly after they have what they wanted and women are in this euphoric way of thinking.
They think everything is going to work out no matter how much they know deep, deep down it wont.

I still believe I will, I try telling myself it'll be different. That'll they'll like me and they will message me back. That I don't really like them.

They won't, I have begun to prepare myself for this feeling.

At the end of the day we are all made up of X and Y chromosomes but all of us have some primal need to be satisfied, needed or loved. We all want sex, I know I do. When You want it there'll only be one thing that will satisfy that craving...


SEX, PORN or ABSTENANCE! 

I have personally have gone months without and getting past the 30 day mark when you're used to having it was a challenge. Most girls can last months, men on the other hand can not. Probably not even a day.

My friend lasted 3 years with no form of relationship or sex of any kind, he was to say the least... a bit frustrated. I am open and we talk about sex quite a lot and he lasted 3 month after hearing my exploits before having to buckle to casual sex with a friend from back home. No he's saying he fine without... I give him a month tops before he's itching and bitching to me about not getting any.

He is one of my very few friends that doesn't succumb to casual sex and waits for meaningful relationships. I had to give him a high five for following my advice and he is back to wanting a long term relationship.

I am lucky most of my male friends are settled and are not players, I am the only one that seems to be one or attracts them. I do not know why it is such an alien fact that women can act/think/behave like men. In my experience men find it intimidating or like an extra game if a girl thinks like a man.

I had one who tried to play mind games. I broke it off with him because I could smell the trouble coming and he threw his toys out of the pram acting like he had first and that id be devastated. The fact I couldn't care less annoyed him. He then spent months trying to wind me up about it and still calls to 'sleep over' even though he is in a relationship. 

Don't worry I don't answer anymore because he's too much head drama even for one night of hot sex.

My male friends have told me they are left confused how forward a girl can be and not knowing where they are standing, which leads me onto my next point...

why do men love when a woman acts like a bitch and why acting like a bitch can be the best thing you can do to keep a man....

The Truth About One Night Stands...

Although most of us aren't willing to admit they have had a one night stand 90% of Great Britain has had a one night stand. Male or female, it doesn't matter.

We all may not be willing to share but behind the comfort of those cosy computer screens we have all at least once wrote into google:

'How to turn a one night stand into a relationship',
'I had a one night stand how do I get rid of them easily'
or something STD related.

Trust me I have searched pretty much all of them, and all you get is forums with people voicing their opinion with no experience. I have been in all of those situations plenty of times.

If I'm honest I'm a bit of a one night stand addict. I wish I wasn't and one day no doubt I'll find someone that wont mind I'm so trusting or I'll have to go to therapy... shit happens.

So...

You've had a one night stand and can't remember it or if you used a condom?

1. Get booked into your local clinic... not hard and any self respecting girl should know where to get tested.
Even when I'm not in a relationship I will still get tested every 3 months to make sure, or even if I haven't got laid in a year I still will.

2. That clinic can get you sorted within a month tops, unless its something more serious.

3. You can't remember it? You can do two things (or both)... Have a cry and put yourself down or you can pull up your big girl pants and decided if getting that drunk was worth never remembering what you've done.


Situation 2:

You aren't on contraception:

1: Boots... need I say more, (if I do... Pharmacist as long as your under 25, emergency contraception).

2: Get yourself on some contraception even if you're not planning on seeing anyone anytime soon.


So you've slept with him because he's spouted you some bullshit about how much he likes you and you wont be a one night stand... 1 out of probably 100 have actually meant it, most men say it just to get in your pants and make you think they're honest and they wont leave you hanging after..


They will,don't believe them one bit. Even if they are being honest.
If you sleep with the guy pretty soon, it's all lies.
I've had guys say:

'You'll never be a one night stand!'
'I don't believe in one night stands!'
'I want a relationship!'
'I like you!'
'How can you think that?'

or they just plain convince you...

I've even had one lately say they want a relationship when I clearly pointed out I wasn't relationship material or even wanted a relationship said 'want to get serious and be committed to each other' the first time we had sex and then completely delete me out of his life... to be honest he was one of my experiment relationship that I will get on to later. But the rule is:

1: Don't believe a word they say, even if they are being genuine. If you sleep with them too soon their is no going back. (with the exception of being a booty call).

2: You'll kid yourself he's different and it meant something... No. You give it up too quickly he's already made his mind up no matter how nice you or he is. You are too easy.

The only way you can rectify this is to move on and pretend like you're not bothered no matter how
much you are and how difficult everyday is wondering if you'll ever hear from him again. And even if you do and you think he might be different... he's not he's just keeping you around as a just in case. Which on a plus side mean you were good enough in between the sheets that'll he'll use you again but not good for you if you think he cares.


There's the subject not a lot of girls deal with but there still will be the rare few out there that will have this situation:

'I had a one night stand and now I cant get rid of them'

... I am so guilty of this, because I feel horrible getting rid of guys, no matter how much they repulse me or I don't get on with them after it.

My worst was my friend... I wont mention his name as we are still friends but he pestered me for months on end afterwards and will still come running after one text.

That is how you'll have to deal with one of these guys if they are hooked on you but its very very rarely.

I ignored him for months on end deleted him and he still wanted to be a part of my life so  I said we could be friends and he still tries it on and I have to just be firm and say no. In other circumstances that could turn ugly but I am lucky.

The last guy I was sleeping with wanted a relationship straight off before we knew each other and pretty much moved in with me, and it freaked me out being a complete commitment-phobe.
I am not proud of this but I pretended to be everything I wasn't, a sex freak, movie scene crazy ex and blasé slut.

It worked the day after he left me be and I haven't heard anything since. I don't do break ups well at the best of times, someone' always hurt. At least this way he keeps his ego intact and thinks he broke up with me. This is very rarely I will ever do this and I do not suggest this. But this is because he lives above me and I couldn't get him out of my flat and I needed to have my independence with me having another casual relationship going on that could give me more.

1: You either be honest.

or

2: Tell an outrageous lie.

if all fails use the critical technique above. (can at a later date put more detail into what I did).

Any questions you have or anything you think I should add let me know.

and at the end of the day, unless you can definitely be completely detached (practise) you'll be in one of these 3 situations.

Happy Hunting...