Are Women Capeable of Casual Sex...

Of course we are...

I'd like to think I was a Samantha, I can be as casual as most men.
But that doesn't devoid me from feeling something for the people I sleep with.
God I'd love it if I could be as distant as most men after sex.


A quote I read was:

'Men don't think clearly before sex were as Women do,
Women think not so clearly after sex and Men do!'


Have you ever noticed men become very withdrawn after sex?
They have a good think afterwards, they think how you and they have acted. 

And it is completely true, they think more clearly after they have what they wanted and women are in this euphoric way of thinking.
They think everything is going to work out no matter how much they know deep, deep down it wont.

I still believe I will, I try telling myself it'll be different. That'll they'll like me and they will message me back. That I don't really like them.

They won't, I have begun to prepare myself for this feeling.

At the end of the day we are all made up of X and Y chromosomes but all of us have some primal need to be satisfied, needed or loved. We all want sex, I know I do. When You want it there'll only be one thing that will satisfy that craving...


SEX, PORN or ABSTENANCE! 

I have personally have gone months without and getting past the 30 day mark when you're used to having it was a challenge. Most girls can last months, men on the other hand can not. Probably not even a day.

My friend lasted 3 years with no form of relationship or sex of any kind, he was to say the least... a bit frustrated. I am open and we talk about sex quite a lot and he lasted 3 month after hearing my exploits before having to buckle to casual sex with a friend from back home. No he's saying he fine without... I give him a month tops before he's itching and bitching to me about not getting any.

He is one of my very few friends that doesn't succumb to casual sex and waits for meaningful relationships. I had to give him a high five for following my advice and he is back to wanting a long term relationship.

I am lucky most of my male friends are settled and are not players, I am the only one that seems to be one or attracts them. I do not know why it is such an alien fact that women can act/think/behave like men. In my experience men find it intimidating or like an extra game if a girl thinks like a man.

I had one who tried to play mind games. I broke it off with him because I could smell the trouble coming and he threw his toys out of the pram acting like he had first and that id be devastated. The fact I couldn't care less annoyed him. He then spent months trying to wind me up about it and still calls to 'sleep over' even though he is in a relationship. 

Don't worry I don't answer anymore because he's too much head drama even for one night of hot sex.

My male friends have told me they are left confused how forward a girl can be and not knowing where they are standing, which leads me onto my next point...

why do men love when a woman acts like a bitch and why acting like a bitch can be the best thing you can do to keep a man....

Welcome to Sex in Leeds...

I never liked sex and the city growing up, it wasn't till a month ago. I thought it was for girly girls who were desperate to find a relationship.
I watched a couple of episodes and I was that hooked, I bought the entire box-set and both films on sky movies. Ironic I know that a complete tomboy would love something so girly.


But really it isn't. It the modern day woman but with an optimistic outcome. I could relate to all of the characters except from Charlotte. I'm more of a Samantha with a little bit of Carrie. I think every girl would love to be a care-free Samantha.


So I guess your wondering why I started this blog in the first place. I have never wanted to go into journalism, it's after my most recent 'relationship' I thought I'd educate both men and women about how most women think... well mainly men.


Why is it the majority of men are not willing to accept that women can be as blasé as men?
Why can't women just want casual sex like men without them thinking we have a hidden agenda?
Why is it that men think we want certain things from relationships?
What are men really thinking?
Why is he ignoring me?
What have I done wrong?

Basically this blog will be sharing my experiences with men.
My many failings and successes, my regrets and triumphs.

If it gets off the ground fine, if not I'm not bothered. My main aim is so women like me or who have been through similar experiences don't feel like their completely on their own like I have, going out of my mind with worry wondering what it is I have said or done wrong to loose that guy we all thought was the one or the one for the mean time. 

And so men can find out what women think, act like, want...ect.

I am not talking for every girl, I am just speaking from experience. A more realistic version of Sex and The City if you will.


So what gives me a better perspective than most women you have heard from?


Like Carrie from Sex and The City I have had my fair share of bad relationships and one night stands, what most of them lately haven't realised is that I have been trying different techniques to be able to write this blog and get a better perspective. I am willing to get knowledge from bad experiences to share them, because like most girls at one point in my life I have gone to the internet for advice, ad I guess many people have. Also I have mainly male friends, am a tomboy and slightly bi sexual, so I have and can get that knowledge most girls are dying to find out.

Here's my story...